B.Y.O.M. (Bring Your Own Motivation)

A special shout out to Chef Doris Fin for her contribution to this post!

There is no shortage of seminars, workshops, and programs that attempt to brand themselves as ‘motivational’. But does that claim truly hold up? While they are occurring, these types of events and experiences are quite exciting. They get their audience fired up, making them feel like they could go out and conquer the world. They help to foster a powerful sense that each person has unlimited potential…one merely needs to believe, and success will be inevitable.

Unfortunately, that thrill quickly fades for most (all?) of those audience members. It might take a few days, or even a few weeks, but more often than not, people find themselves right back where they started…no closer to achieving their desires.

There’s a very simple explanation.

Inspiration is External; Motivation is Internal.

Many people tend to confuse Motivation with Inspiration, even using the terms interchangeably. No doubt, inspirational people, stories, and events are important. They help reinforce the reality that obstacles can be overcome. They illuminate the fact that we are not alone in facing challenges, and they help us connect with others who might be going through something similar. They show us what’s possible, even when life feels impossible.

The reason why externally-driven Motivation doesn’t last is that true change comes from within. Without that internal fuel source, the ‘Change Engine’ eventually stalls out.

In the end, it truly is up to you.

Speaking of Motivation and Inspiration…

One of the many wonderful aspects of living in Toronto is the cultural diversity. A colleague and I recently attended a Russian-themed dinner at Le Depanneur, a local restaurant/community kitchen. The experience was amazing, and the food was spectacular!

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve had the pleasure of meeting and getting to know Chef Doris Fin, the woman who prepared that wonderful meal! I asked for her thoughts on Motivation and Inspiration, and she was kind enough to take some time out of her busy schedule to provide some.

Chef Doris Fin: “Is it any wonder why we are easily influenced by others? When someone inspires us isn’t it only natural to experience motivation, jealousy or want to celebrate in their successes? I’ve experienced all of these and the only one that actually ignites me to take action is motivation because it’s internal and I control it. When I’m inspired by someone else they are in turn externally triggering me and it’s up to me to take action to complete a task or accomplish a goal. Being a part of this society, I’m influenced by others in one way or another so it’s only natural for me to want to keep up with the game and get things done at my own pace, with my own internal motivating factor.

While travelling the world for 10 years what has always motivated me to cook with people is their appreciation and understanding for real ingredients that come from nature. Currently what’s motivating me to finish my cookbook is inspiring people to get back into the kitchen and do what is only gifted to human beings, cooking our own food. The burning desire in me ignites the fuel to keep me focused on the dream goal and in turn inspires me to keep moving forward despite the trends and distractions others follow.”

Very insightful words from Doris. Each of us must find that burning desire in ourself.


The upcoming Emerston project is all about driving and enabling meaningful change. As I’ve mentioned previously, I’m in the process of creating a user-friendly set of Project Management tools…a set meant for people who aren’t Project Managers by nature and/or training. So if you’re one of those people who want to change the world, but don’t know where to start…you’ll want to stay tuned!

Emerston’s new project will indeed bring opportunities, along with healthy doses of inspiration…but YOU need to bring the motivation.

Chef Doris Fin’s contact info:

Please join me each week to read about my experiences, observations, and thoughts related to the project launch, as well as other related and/or assorted goings-on. If you enjoy what you read, please like, comment, and share this blog to help get the word out. Thanks for your time, and here’s looking forward to the next step! Nigel

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